The Punch That Parents Don’t See

Vaughn Alaine-Marshall
www.uberstarthebook.com
The job of nurturing an impressionable mind has always been a challenge. The once gradual ascent into adulthood is now a sharp rise. Every single day parents in America are confronted with the task of monitoring their child’s influences. New technologies, social crazes and information portals emerge on a monthly basis, making the job [...]

What Is It Like To Be You?

Here’s what I know happens whenever I come at someone with my point of view rigidly holding me hostage: I become nervous—will I be able to convince them of the validity of my position?; forceful—do I have the strength to get them to see things my way; and/or passive—defeated before I begin. (And yes, I [...]

Yet another lesson in parenting…

My son and I are in the Goleta gas station an hour and a half into our drive to San Francisco to look at colleges, and the car decides not to start. I try it again, and it apparently still believes it’s a good idea to pretend it has a dead battery or some such [...]

A Perfect Mother is Not an Ideal Mother At All

A daughter often feels her mother as such a powerful presence in her life that it can be difficult for her to see her as an ordinary person with failings, motives and ambitions. Developing a healthy adult relationship requires that both mothers and daughters understand and accept each other as separate individuals with flaws and [...]

Mothers and Adult Daughters: What is too Close for Comfort?

Mother-daughter relationships are possibly the most satisfying and the most agonizing relationships women share. They are also our closest bond and the key to all other relationships. Exploring this relationship can help mothers and daughters to understand their own emotions, and what to expect from others.
Today the relationship is even more complicated because the boundaries [...]

The Fine Art of Disciplining Other People’s Kids: What to Do and How to Do It

When I was growing up, if I misbehaved I was set straight by the parent in charge. If my friends misbehaved at my house there were held accountable by my mom and dad. But parenting has changed. These days parent are much more cautious about discipline kids who are not their – probably because our [...]