8 Ways To Make the Holidays Work for Tweens & Teens

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It is hard to believe that the holidays are already upon us. The season really can bring joy, time to relax and catch up with family and friends, the pleasure of sharing meals and exchanging gifts, and the fun of taking a break from everyday routines. Yes, that’s all true even if you are the parent of tweens or teens.

There will be stress and strain, of course. Frustration. Maybe even fury. How can you ensure that you and your tweens and teens experience cheer rather than confrontation and conflict over the holiday season? What follows are some quick tips to encourage a happy holiday season.

1. Present a plan

Sit down with the whole family and discuss the holiday schedule. Letting your tweens and teens know where and when specific events will occur is a good way to avoid the frustration kids often feel when parents fail to keep them in the loop.

2. Debunk gift delusions

Head off disappointment in advance. If you know your tween or teen has his heart set on a particular present that did not make the gift list cut, gently let him know ahead of time. Although he may be disappointed, the advance notice can derail negative emotional outbursts when the presents are unwrapped.

3. Address dietary dilemmas in advance

If your tween or teen tends to be a picky eater or follows a specific dietary regime — she’s a vegetarian, a vegan, a gluten-free Paleo enthusiast — that diverges from the holiday menu, sit down and discuss alternative choices. Nothing puts more of a damper on a family meal than the complaints of a finicky eater.

4. Identify opportunities for down time and/or fraternizing with friends

While the holidays are usually about fun with family, don’t take your tween or teen’s desire to hang with her friends as an insult. Tweens and teens tend to be friend focused, and they can get anxious or upset if they feel like they are missing out. In addition, while your tween or teen enjoys family time, she may also need some alone time. Remember, holiday break is one of the few times during the school year when your child isn’t bogged down with school work. Respect his need for alone time.

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