The Psychology of Dating

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When it comes to dating, Freud got it right. He talked about how we humans tend to repeat the same patterns of behavior in our lives over and over. He called this propensity ‘repetition repulsion.’ While he didn’t apply this label to dating in particular, it is clear why it so obviously applies. 
While many people have a ‘type’, it is when you get stuck in a negative dating cycle that it maybe be time to re-examine your relationships. Here are a few of the questions you should be asking yourself if you find yourself in yet another failed relationship or dating disaster:

  • What are the similarities in the course of your past relationships (i.e. do they all follow the same pattern)?
  • Are you so stuck on outward appearances that you are blinded by what’s inside your romantic choices?
  • When you are dating, do you present the way you really are or do you tend to be a chameleon; transforming into what you believe your partner is looking for?
  • Are you looking for Mr. Right or Mr. Right Now?
  • Are you able to see the ‘red flags’ indicating that your relationship is heading toward disaster?
  • Do you share the say basic values as your partner? If you answer NO to this one, it is probably time to break it off as soon as possible.
  • When it comes to dating, do you tend to ignore the negative comments or observations of the friends and family members who care most about you when it comes to your romantic partners?

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