Secrets In Relationships – Prevention And Warning Signs

by Dr. Karen Ruskin on October 4, 2012

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When it comes to secrets in relationships knowing how to prevent being blindsided by a secret and being aware of the warning signs can make a difference in your relationship. Do know, you are not alone if you have discovered your spouse, or the person you are in a committed relationship with – has had a secret that you knew nothing about and now you do. Not everyone is informed about prevention and warning signs. Examples of secret keeping topics include but are not limited to: an affair, drugs, gambling, separate financial account. This week during a live interview direct from my base of Massachusetts, I was interviewed on Tommy Tucker’s Show: WWL AM/FM radio (based in New Orleans) about this very topic.

Click for listening to this interview on demand and learn: Secrets and Relationships - Prevention and Warning Signs

  • 3 ways of preventing being blindsided by a secret from your spouse/significant other
  • 7 signs your spouse/significant other may be hiding something

Summary Of Talking Points:

Prevention

  1. Live with your eyes wide open.
  2. Have an open communicative relationship speaking with your spouse not at your spouse. In this way your spouse will feel he/she can come to you rather than disconnect and connect with another.
  3. Be an active participant in and be a part of your spouse’s life journey.

Warning Signs

  1. Secretive
  2. Change in behavior
  3. Lies about little things
  4. Individual focus only, lacking in interest in spending time with you as a couple
  5. Defensive
  6. Externalizer and a non-ownershipster vs. an ownershipster
  7. Gut

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Follow Dr. Karen on Twitter or Facebook. Media Psychotherapist Guest Expert; Relationships, Parenting, Hot Topics In The News. Appears on: The O'Reilly Factor, FOX & Friends, FOX & Friends FIRST, America Live, Hannity, regular go-to for FOX Boston, and more. Can be heard on Radio: FOX News, 96.9 Boston Talks, and more. Columnist, quoted in various print media: FOX Business, Boston Globe, Boston Herald, Care.com, USA Today, Parents, TIME, Woman's Day, and more. Owner/Director of Dr. Karen Ruskin & Associates, Inc. Based in Massachusetts. Author of: 9 Key Techniques For Raising Respectful Children and Dr. Karen's Marriage Manual. Copyright 2012.

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