Parenting By Temperament

Parenting by Temperament by Nancy Harkley, Ph.D. and Teri Jourgensen, MPA


Parenting by Temperament begins with "What all children bring into the world and what this means about Parenting."A series of chapters in this section look at parental love and parental discipline as these apply to all children, including a chapter on "Why children come to accept our rules" which is all about the ways in which good discipline helps all children to learn self-control.

With this first section as our foundation we then look at the measurement and meaning of individual differences (behavioral preferences) that are found in every child and in every parent. We show how to blend the basic truths about parenting practices with your child's unique self and your own unique and natural self.

Two final sections entitled "Polishing the Basic Design" and Adding Grace to your Parenting Design" offer ideas on how to tailor love and discipline to your child's specific needs and your own abilities, and how to stretch a little beyond your natural preferences where this might help.


Three steps to inspired parenting:

  • Step 1: Get acquainted with your child's preferences, temperament and type. All three of our sorters are free and include feedback and the meaning of your results.  (Easy online survey, click on your child's age below)
  • Step 2: Learn about your own temperament and type by taking a survey of your own. (Encourage co-parents to also take this survey)
  • Step 3: Use the simple guidelines in the book. Parenting by Temperament is essential to understanding how your child's temperament and your own interact in all facets of your parenting.
    • Both child and adult preferences, temperament and Type are explained in much more detail there.
    • We stress two broad aspects of parenting style. Both come from Baumrind's model of Authoritative parenting. The first is responsiveness as warmth, intimacy and understanding, and the second is demandingness (discipline), in teaching your child the expectations of the social world, and as helping your child to grow and develop in self-control.
    • The second half of the book is devoted to integrating both discipline and responsiveness with your child's temperament and your own.
    • We also discuss stretching exercises for child and parent in non-preferred areas--places you may not want to go but sometimes need to visit just the same!


Oprah Winfrey should put Parenting by Temperament on her "Must Read" list for every parent.
~Marcia Lasswell, Professor Emeritus in Psychology, Past President of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy


Download a Free Chapter!

Grab your free chapter, Every Child Is Unique, and you'll read powerful information on how your child's temperament is formed and how it changes with age. Some babies will giggle all the time while some will be serious. Some kids constantly have tantrum-like meltdowns while others are simply mellow. Some like to cuddle, some don't. Some will have their heads in the clouds, others with their feet planted firmly on the ground. Perhaps even more important to you will be to understand why some kids LOVE structure in their life, while others seem driven to be free-spirited.

How you will parent and personally interact with these temperament types is vital to your own unique child's success, and if you are blessed with more than one, you'll need to adapt your parenting strategies differently depending upon each child's type.

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