Posts Tagged ‘ relationships ’

Are the Empty Nest Blues Placing Our Marriages at Risk?

There’s a growing epidemic spreading its way across the nation with a bullseye aimed directly on couples whose kids have flown the coop. No, it’s not health issues, retirement money worries, or employment challenges. It’s divorce. The National Center for Family and Marriage Research at Bowling Green State University reports that divorce rates for...Learn More »

How Conflict Helps You Reach Real-Life Love

The unfortunate truth about marriage is that it’s not easy. It requires extreme effort. Why? Because conflict is inevitable after the “honeymoan” and falling in love stage dissipates. Our unrealistic expectations in marriage come from when we fell in love--when euphoric brain chemicals kept us up all night and “high” with a drug induced...Learn More »

Mindful Listening

I taught a class last weekend and I realized that sometimes we put more of an emphasis on how mindful listening benefits us in times of conflict and confrontation. While it certainly helps us in difficult situations, it also benefits us in our day-to-day conversations as well. How? By helping us to appreciate the...Learn More »

Is An Angry Reaction A Choice?

Is An Angry Reaction A Choice?

Can a person choose to not have an angry reaction although experiencing the feeling of anger? Yes. Is an angry reaction a choice? Yes. Is anger bad? No, anger in and of itself is not bad. It is how we respond and react to our feelings of anger in terms of our own self...Learn More »

10 Benefits of Conflict: The Hidden Secrets to Effective Fights

Are you conflict-allergic? When we are faced with conflict, it can be tempting to avoid it because of the anxiety and fear that comes with it. And yes, conflict is extremely uncomfortable. We get sweaty, some of us start shaking, we tend to raise our voices. And often, we say things we don't mean....Learn More »

Relationship Negotiation 101

  Relationship negotiation doesn't sound very romantic or sexy, but it is the foundation upon which love is based. Without strong, conscious relationship negotiating skills, couples are bound for disappointment and frustration. Here are four principles of relationship negotiation. Principle 1: Fairness is What You Create, Not What You Deserve We live by a...Learn More »

The Fine Art of Apologizing

The Fine Art of Apologizing

Most people know to say "I'm sorry" when they have hurt someone's feelings.  Knowing how to apologize effectively can mean the difference in having a loving and respectful relationship or a hallow and empty one. Regardless if you are a couple or if the issue is between parents and kids, Relationship Coach Nancy Pina...Learn More »

Happy Marriage Secret: Acceptance

One of the biggest downfalls of marriage or getting married is the idea that our partner needs to be different or at least they need to change certain things to make us happier. After all, if they really loved us, they would change anything for us right?   Well, NO. Wanting your partner to change...Learn More »

The Truth About Family Dinners

The Truth About Family Dinners

Dr. Polly Dunnwww.ChildPsychMom.com Earlier this year I happened upon an article by a respected family psychologist and parenting expert.  In it, he provided lots of ideas on how parents could improve their family life, a number of which I completely agreed with.  But then I got to his recommendation about family dinners.  He suggested...Learn More »

Yet another lesson in parenting…

Yet another lesson in parenting…

My son and I are in the Goleta gas station an hour and a half into our drive to San Francisco to look at colleges, and the car decides not to start. I try it again, and it apparently still believes it's a good idea to pretend it has a dead battery or some...Learn More »

Can I Save My Relationship?

Can I Save My Relationship?

The health of the relationship of the parents, together or apart, is a crucial factor in helping our kids grow up to be confident and secure in themselves and the world around them.Learn More »