A Simple Question to Push Past the Barriers

A Simple Question to Push Past the BarriersBy Barbara Seifert, Ph. D., CPC

A new statistic that came out recently indicates that we have a very unhappy workforce which equates to a lot of unhappy people; approximately a million people miss work daily due to a stress-related or mental health issue which costs organizations between $450-550 billion dollars a year. (Dept. of Labor) This is a disturbing fact that a large part of Americans cannot deal with life in general. We take our work situations home and home situations into work causing an overload of emotions that are depleting. I firmly believe that people do not want to feel unhappy or lead unhappy or frustrating lives; the majority just don’t know how to overcome the barriers standing in their way.

In my line of work in dealing with these stressed workers and hearing their stories, it is no wonder they feel unhappy as they deal with bad behaviors by their boss or coworkers, they have intense workloads that compromise their home life, or they worry financially. But when pressed for what is stopping them from relieving these situations they admit they ‘can’t,’ usually because they don’t know how. Something is stopping them, i.e. a barrier, which may be due to an outside influence or, more commonly, from within. Dealing with an outside influence can be difficult but is resolvable. It is the ones on the inside – our fears and  – that are the most difficult to overcome.

In looking at ways to push past these barriers, it comes down to two questions, the second of which is the most important that needs answered: 

  • Can you do what is needed?
  • Do you believe you have the ability to do what is needed?

The first question would most likely elicit a ‘yes’ to anything you want to do, but when you go deeper, it is the unconscious beliefs that are the problem; if you don’t fully – without a doubt – have the belief in yourself that you can do and achieve anything you want – you won’t. As an example, if you are a business owner and need to market your business through speaking engagements you might have it as part of your business plan, but never act to secure an engagement; consciously you feel you can speak, but if you subconsciously doubt your ability or worry that you’ll look foolish then you’ll most likely decline any offer, thus reinforcing your belief that you aren’t a good speaker.

The way to turn this around is, quite simply, to dispel doubtful beliefs and restate that you are “(I am) fully able and capable of achieving anything you (I) desire.” The more you say this phrase, the more engrained it will become; your esteem and confidence will increase as you will now not only say you are unstoppable but you will also believe it. The more you believe the more you will achieve, thus banishing the barriers forever.

Dr. Barbara Seifert, CPC is the President of Committed to Your Success Coaching & Consulting in Orlando, Florida. She works with small business owners & solopreneurs who want to achieve measurable and life-long improvements in their performance so they can make more money, have greater satisfaction and achieve personal and professional success. She also coaches in organizations to enhance employee engagement and for leadership development. Dr. Seifert is an adjunct professor, a certified professional coach, a certified Neuro-Linguistic Programming practitioner and a Certified Law of Attraction coach. She is a coauthor of the book, Contagious Optimism and a Premier Career and Business Coach for the American Society of Training & Development. You can learn more by visiting www.cyscoaching.com and Your Career Success Blog at www.allaboutcareerssite.com, which was named one of the Top 100 Life Coaching Blogs to Follow in 2013.

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