Moving from “I Want” to “I Will”

I WillBy Barbara Seifert, Ph. D., CPC

How many times have you used these words, “I want” when you have goals or desires you would like to have? And in using those words, how often have you actually reached them? Most times the words we use can set us up for failure, which is why we have to be careful as to what we say to ourselves, or that internal ‘chatter.’ It seems we have a way of talking ourselves out of a ‘good thing’ and can ruin our chances of having and doing all that we want in our lives.

A want is a desire of some sort, which can often be very vague and elusive. These wants stem from our basic need states, such as safety, security or, if we move up Maslow’s Hierarchical chart, relationships or ego satisfaction. When these needs are threatened in some way, it can cause one to feel fear of some sort and they will react accordingly, which may not always be the best way. Using ‘I want” actually is a sort of protective mechanism to the psyche as it does not force the issue and ‘allows’ one to tap into their defense mechanisms, such as by making excuses or attributing it to someone else. It is less threatening – if you don’t take action it can be excusable and easier to live with.

But all that does it keep the fear deep-rooted, which will rear its ugly head when you least expect it to. Meaning, that when you really want something important you won’t take action on it as that deep fear will yell out to you and keep you down. The way to get anything in life is by being clear and decisive in the desire and then taking massive action; going from “I want” to “I will” gets you there. Switching the word ‘want’ to ‘will’ shifts the fear activator to ‘off’ and gets the brain in action-mode. Look at these two examples to see how this works: “I want to lose 5 pounds” OR “I will lose 5 pounds.” Which one stirs the emotion and conviction that you will lose those five pounds?

That is how powerful that one word can be.  

If you have wants and desires, such as those goals you set at the beginning of this year, go back and change every one to add the words “I will” and notice how much more determined you feel; then, go back and rewrite the steps (with an end-date) you need to take to get you to the finish line. Using “I WILL” gets you success every time!

Dr. Barbara Seifert, CPC is the President of Committed to Your Success Coaching & Consulting in Orlando, Florida. She works with small business owners & solopreneurs who want to achieve measurable and life-long improvements in their performance so they can make more money, have greater satisfaction and achieve personal and professional success. She also coaches in organizations to enhance employee engagement and for leadership development. Dr. Seifert is an adjunct professor, a certified professional coach, a certified Neuro-Linguistic Programming practitioner and a Certified Law of Attraction coach. She is a coauthor of the book,  Contagious Optimism and a Premier Career and Business Coach for the American Society of Training & Development.  You can learn more by visiting www.cyscoaching.com and Your Career Success Blog at www.allaboutcareerssite.com, which was named one of the Top 100 Life Coaching Blogs to Follow in 2013.

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